by Psychologist Larry Phillip Nims, Ph.D.
Creator of BSFF-Be Set Free Fast
http://www.besetfreefast.com/

Historically, forgiveness has been addressed rather minimally and ineffectively in traditional therapies. We have always recognized that unforgiveness was a problem in human adjustment. But, we have tended largely to ignore it as a treatment issue.

There are many reasons for such neglect I suppose, not the least of which is that we really were not sure how to eliminate it. Another is that many of us are uncomfortable and/or unfamiliar with spiritual considerations in psychotherapy.

Roger Callahan pointed the way for the technical process of treating unforgiveness. He deserves much credit for this finding. Still, he did not seem to recognize and/or acknowledge the enormity of the negative effects of unforgiveness on the human soul and spirit.

I am convinced that unforgiveness and related attitudes of resentment and bitterness are among the deadliest dynamics in the human psyche. Hence this discourse. I hope to alert we energy therapists to the opportunity and the obligation to use our elegant techniques to free our clients of this severely restrictive psychological and spiritual problem.

Here are just some of the inevitable costs to you and me whenever we hold onto unforgiveness. They are all in operation, continuously, in every unforgiveness, whether we consciously recognize them or not. These consequences happen within everyone every time that we get entrapped in unresolved unforgiveness. We have all paid these high costs in our lives over and over again. We probably still do pay them in many unhealed areas of our psyches and our spirits.

Consider these consequences of judgment, criticism and unforgiveness.

1. We continue to feel the psychological pain of the perceived offense.
2. We block healthy communication and potential reconciliation with the "offender".
3. We perceive similar offenses by others who remind us of the offender.
4. We attract similar situations, people and injuries to ourselves.
5. We give up our personal power to others to determine how we will feel and respond (actually, we "react") in similar situations.
6. We render ourselves incapable of ever really knowing, and learning from, the full truth about the event that damaged the relationship.
7. We take added toxic negativity into our present relationships.
8. We isolate/prevent/avoid/limit ourselves from having new, more healthy, and more fulfilling relationships.
9. We become vulnerable to becoming spiteful, resentful and bitter.
10. We disrespect, distrust and devalue ourselves at deep levels of our psyches.
11. We block ourselves spiritually from receiving help and healing from our Higher Source.
12. Our own spirits and souls "shrivel up" (contract) more and more.

Most counselors could probably add several more items to this "dirty dozen" price list. That is a very expensive set of costs to pay for self-righteous unforgiveness, isn't it? Yet, most of us have some of these attitudes buried deep within our subconscious minds. I have not seen a client yet who does not have numerous unresolved hurts and other emotional injuries, always with judgment, criticism, unforgiveness and related negative attitudes attached.

Fortunately, we now have the tools and the therapeutic support no longer to be victimized in all of these ways by the devastation of anger and unforgiveness. We can readily neutralize and eliminate all of the psychological, but not the spiritual, costs of unforgiveness simply by treating ourselves with BSFF.

Here is how:

Resolving Anger and Unforgiveness With BSFF-Be Set Free Fast Whenever you finish a session of any energy therapy treatments, remember to treat for anger and unforgiveness toward yourself or anyone else, including God if that is an issue, for every problem you have just treated. Do this after every session of BSFF treatments, whether you have just done one or a 101 treatments in that session.

You can do just one treatment for all angers combined for each person you were angry at, one treatment for all angers toward God, and one treatment for all angers toward yourself. You do not have to treat anger for each incident, although you may choose to in some instances. Just make sure that you treat separately for every person that you were angry at in the session of BSFF treatments you have just completed.

Always be sure to treat angers before going to unforgiveness. Remember that anger gives rise to judgment, criticism and related hurtful attitudes and these give rise to unforgiveness. So treat them in that order.

The most important reason for doing this work at the end of a session of treatments is to set ourselves free of the terrible effects of judgment, criticism, and any other related attitudes such as vengeance, wanting to harm or cause pain to someone, or to put ourselves in a one-up position with someone else.

Taking such a superior attitude with the intention of causing harm or loss to someone, including oneself, is a major spiritual problem as well as a psychological problem. Consider this. When I take a judgmental, critical, punitive, vengeful or withholding position toward someone, including myself, what am I doing spiritually? Well, I am playing God!

I am putting myself up as the judge, jury and executioner. I am, therefore, violating the First Commandment! That means that God cannot even help me with my unforgiveness dilemma. I'm on my own with my suffering and the terrible costs of my own unforgiveness.

Whether you view this violation from another religious or philosophical perspective or not, it still boils down to making myself the power and the center of the universe. That is a very dangerous position to be in because none of us has that power or authority in ourselves. It is reserved to our Higher Power. So, this is a losing battle for us--with all of the terrible costs described above.

So, always treat the angers first. This will also eliminate the judgment, criticalness and related negative attitudes that lead to unforgiveness. Then do the unforgiveness step. Notice that, If you try to do unforgiveness without eliminating the anger first, these negative attitudes will draw you back into the unforgiveness, sometimes almost immediately. So you are still on precarious ground.

You must treat anger at each person separately, but you may simultaneously treat all anger toward any specific person for all perceived hurts, offenses or failures that you addressed in that session by using just one BSFF sequence at the end of the session. Likewise, you can combine in one treatment all the unforgiveness toward any one person for everything you have just treated about that person during that session.

Be sure to always treat anger at self last. If you do not do so, you will have to treat yourself again for anger at yourself for the related problems of anger, judgment, criticism and unforgiveness that you treat after you forgave yourself the first time in the session. No percentage in that is there? In other words, treat yourself last, so you will have covered all of your anger at self for all of the problems that you have just treated.

The marvelous payoff for doing this forgiveness work is that you completely eradicate all of the terrible costs in less than 15 seconds! Forgive everyone and enjoy the blessings of the wonderful new freedom you will have!